Making decisions that will empower you

Many people have difficulty making decisions and knowing what it is they actually want from life. Here is one of my favourite articles on the decision making process from Alistair Horscroft a Hypnotherapist and trainer based in Australia.

Here, I feel, the very essence of decision making is summed up very well, self awareness for improved decision making is definitely worth considering.

Decision making vs. having a preference

One of the first books I ever read in the field of personal development was the Tony Robbins classic Unlimited Power. In it Tony made a key distinction that had a profound effect on my life and is something that I have witnessed to be true across the board in over a decade of therapy and coaching. The distinction was ‘Making a Decision’ vs. ‘Having a Preference’.

Pretty much everyone would prefer to be happier, prefer to have more money, prefer to be anxiety free, prefer to be in a great relationship, prefer to live in their dream house in a dream location, but how many people actually make the decision to accept nothing else. Not many in my experience.

I heard it’s not that complete freedom is not wanted by people, it’s just that other things are more important to them. Now these other things can be basic primitive drivers such as security, or control, or they can be more complex ego mechanisms, such as the desire to be right rather than happy, or the desire to be told what to do rather than have the courage to call one’s own shots, or perhaps the attachment to jealousy rather than doing the inner work required to claim what you want for yourself.

Either way most people live wishing life to be different rather than making the decision that it will be different and doing everything (and I do mean everything) to make it so. This approach to life goes by many names: game playing, buggering about or letting life pass you by just to name a few.

So, in short, rather than wondering why life is not how you want it to be, ask yourself, have I made the absolute decision that it will be how I want it to be?

Once you have made a decision, then set a goal. The goal then becomes the stone of truth upon which all your contrary (to your goal) beliefs, emotional responses, thoughts and behaviours are broken / let go off.

This is important and most people do not truly get this. Goals are created so that you can bring up any internal conflicts to the goal and then deal with them. The reward of dealing with your inner conflicts to the goal is the goal itself. Goals are your tool for personal and spiritual growth, they challenge you to let go of what is preventing the goal from happening.

Follow this up with taking 100% responsibility for everything that happens in your life however great or awful and you are now in control. Any other way puts you out of control and in the place of being a victim. When you take 100% responsibility for everything that happens to you, you can change it.

So start becoming a decision maker, and relish the fact that the bigger the goals you set the more free you will become – but don’t expect it to not bring up those deep fears and insecurities, because a good goal always will, then it’s just a matter of how willing you are to let them go, and the strength of your decision will let you know that.

The decision making process and exploring goals

Some people just instinctively know what they want to do with their lives (personal decisions and business decisions) and simply follow that path. Some have dreams, but lack motivation or confidence to make them a reality. Others just don’t know what they want and find it hard to define just what it is they actually want from life, it’s not that they are necessarily unhappy, they just can’t put their finger on exactly what it is they DO want.

Regardless of which camp you fall into, I can help you across a wide range of processes that lead from the definition of goals through to their achievement – for example:

• True Self Awareness Update
• Definition of Values and Beliefs
• Understanding your own personality
• Eradication of Self limiting Thoughts and Behaviours
• Life – Wants and Needs Evaluation
• Goal Setting and Documenting
• Developing the Confidence and Motivation to make it happen
• Skills for working with different personality types
• Skills for psychologically managing people
• Business decision making

Exploring these avenues of your own mind is very personal and certainly the first step in becoming more self aware, because as you learn more about yourself, you will find that almost anything is possible if you really want it enough and it is in line with your values and beliefs, making better decisions can open a whole new world of opportunities.

I have over 20 years experience of mentoring and working with people to overcome their inner fears and understand who they really are and what they really want. Call me and we can explore what is possible – even if you don’t know exactly what you want – I can help you find out.

Hypnotherapy & NLP for decision making

Using hypnosis, NLP and a range of tools I can help you to become far more aware of the goals and directions that you may have and align your confidence and belief in making these happen. Together we will set realistic but challenging goals, starting small and building up, encouraging you to celebrate your successes, then helping you to become more positive generally and specifically, improving your thinking patterns so that you use your intellectual brain more by accessing your subconscious emotional brain and unlocking the negative habits of a lifetime.

So, let me help you to overcome any fears, anxieties and doubts that you may have about yourself and generate new levels of confidence that will change your life – hypnotherapy for decision making is the way forward. Make the decision to do something today!